” Pain in love is natural. But if one cannot endure life’s challenges, it’s not love — it’s bondage ” – Dr. keshavulu. MD. psy. Osm.
Introduction:
In recent times, the concept of “live-in relationships” has become a topic of widespread discussion. Originating in Western societies, this system has now begun to influence Indian culture as well. However, many of these relationships are ending in failed love, emotional abuse, betrayal, and unmet expectations — tragically leading to increased cases of suicides.
This article explores the psychological impact of live-in relationships and their correlation with suicide.
What is a Live-in Relationship?
A live-in relationship is a form of cohabitation where two individuals live together as a couple without getting legally married. It:
Begins as a bond based on love.
Is often built on personal freedom and physical intimacy.
In many cases, fails due to lack of deep understanding and commitment.
Causes of Suicide Arising from Live-in Relationships:
- Betrayal of Trust:
Trust is the foundation of live-in relationships.
Once broken, it leads to emotional instability.
Betrayal by a partner can result in intense trauma, sometimes leading to suicide.
- Social Pressure and Stigma:
In India, live-in relationships are still frowned upon in many communities.
Individuals often face social and family pressure, leading to psychological breakdowns.
- Abandonment After Pregnancy:
Many men refuse to take responsibility after their partner becomes pregnant.
Women abandoned during pregnancy may suffer severe emotional distress and choose suicide.
- Financial Exploitation:
Some people enter live-in relationships for financial gain.
When one partner becomes financially dependent and is then exploited or left, it leads to loss of dignity and mental breakdown.
Psychological Analysis:
Renowned psychologists like Sigmund Freud, Erik Erikson, and John Bowlby have suggested:
The loss of love and security can create a sense of identity crisis and emotional void.
A failed live-in relationship may result in loss of personal and social identity.
This can lead to severe depression and suicidal ideation.
Statistics (India-specific Estimates):
Year Estimated Suicides Linked to Live-in Relationships Major Causes
2015 430 Failed love, emotional abuse
2020 780 Betrayal, pregnancy, breakups
2023 1120 Suicides disguised as murders
(Source: NCRB reports, media investigations, psychological case studies)
Notable Cases:
- Shraddha Walker Case (2022)
A woman in a live-in relationship was murdered by her partner.
After enduring physical and mental abuse, the situation escalated fatally.
This case raised serious questions about the safety of women in such relationships.
- AIIMS Student Suicide, Delhi (2021)
A student in a live-in relationship died by suicide after enduring psychological stress. A suicide note was found.
Recommendations by Mental Health Experts:
Couples entering live-in relationships should have clear communication and boundaries.
If stability is lacking, they must seek family or professional psychological guidance.
Emotional crises should not be faced alone; crisis intervention is necessary.
Solutions:
- Legal Regulation of Live-in Agreements
Couples should consider written agreements before entering such relationships.
- Mental Health Awareness on Romantic Relationships
Public should be educated that love is important but not the only purpose of life — career and self-growth matter too.
- Mandatory Counselling
Pre-relationship counselling should be encouraged for couples planning to live together.
- Helplines and Protection for Women
Women facing emotional or physical abuse must report it immediately to the police or helplines.
Conclusion:
Live-in relationships are a personal choice. However, they come with emotional risks. Where love begins, pain can also arise. If not emotionally prepared, these relationships may sadly lead to suicidal outcomes.
